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Be Spontaneous. It is Okay.
Do you ever feel like your days are constantly routined? Bored week after week? Wondered ‘what if‘ for opportunities that you might find yourself regretting? This might sound like an ad, but I assure you it’s not. In fact, this post will be my most personal one only because I feel very strongly about this subject. For as long as I can remember I’ve been reciting the phrases, ‘never settle‘, or ‘be spontaneous‘ because I truly believe in these statements. I’m going to share with you some stories and tell you as to why I think it’s healthy for people to get out of their comfort zones once in a while.
Relationships & Independence
The places that I’ve traveled to, the people that I’ve met, the memories that I’ve experienced… most of them would have never occurred if I didn’t take chances on opportunities. And that also goes for guys I probably shouldn’t have dated, but I’ve learned that if you take at least a small bit of something from every relationship (romantic or not), you then learn from those mistakes.
Many students stay in town for college after high school, and that’s great if it worked out for them, but for someone with my personality (who likes to be on the go go go), I felt it was necessarily to move out from my parents house and learn how to live on my own and make my own living while also studying. It was the best decision I have ever made. Some of my lasting friendships I met through college, and I can never take those fun lasting memories away. Sure, some nights were not so responsible, but that’s what being young is about, right!? Having fun while also pulling an all nighter or two for your exam coming up the next morning.
Why Be Spontaneous
Great question, from my experience being spontaneous will help you define yourself as an individual, you’ll learn to be social and open up, you’ll be more confident as a person and also in your daily decisions. You will have a calm outlook for many things instead of stressing out, kind of like “going with the flow” outlook on life. You get to explore yourself and have “me time” without having to worry about time management deadlines of any kind. Having no plans and no expectations make your choices all the more worth while and exciting. It’s very relaxing, fun, and stressless, you’ll see 🙂
An Example Of Her Story
I’m proud of most people, in particular my sister. Take her as an example, in my opinion she beat the odds very early on with still so much ahead of her. She never really cared for college, but my parents wanted her to have a safety net and so she agreed and graduated from the University Of Central Florida rather quickly, and then decided to purchase a one way ticket to Chicago to pursue comedy in Improve.
Fast toward 4 years later, she is now a part of multiple Improv groups, was granted a Bob Curry Scholarship, CBS Scholarship, and has the best manager and talent agency representing her from Los Angeles. Now, I’m not trying to say that everyone should up and move their life into a new state and change their career to be in the spotlight. I’m only expressing her true story, an example of what might never have happened if she never made the impulsive, spontaneous move. Lucky for her it worked out. But remember, everyone’s story is different, correct? Yes.
An Example Of My Story
My story is far different from my sisters. I never cared to be in the spotlight, I only cared to not live a routined typical 9-5 / gym / sleep / repeat lifestyle. I mean no offense to anyone, again, I want to remind you that if you do like a routined lifestyle then that’s great, whatever works for you as long as you are happy.
A couple of instances where I made spontaneous decisions:
- Years back I received a phone call from a friend on mine who was living in LA and told me she had a spare room. That very same day I decided to quit my job, pack my bags and drive across country for my big move.
- I drove across country on a whim a year later again because another friend called me telling me that her boyfriend broke up and she needed a roommate, so I, without a doubt in my mind, told her I’d move to Jupiter Florida, and drove over straight away from California.
- Another time I decided to quit my land base job in Florida to live and work as a stewardess on a yacht… granted, I broke my nose during this journey, but at least since surgery I can breath better now hahaha!
- One Friday morning I woke up from my bed in Florida at 6am and decided to get a rental and drive all the way to Richmond, Virginia to surprise a dear friend of mine.
- A friend and I decided last minute to drive from Connecticut to New York for just a couple of hours. We had the best time eating and dancing the night away!
I hardly say no when family or friends call and make last minute plans (my bank account hates me for this one). Most of my spontaneity is about moving into places and driving, definitely a pattern for the simple reason that I just like a change of scenery.
The Haters Are Out There
I struggled a bit with the idea of writing about this “haters” topic, because I’m not one to hold grudges or write something negative; however, since this post is my most and only personal one I figured I’d write about something very common that might be able to help someone who’s trying to get out of their comfort zone.
Let’s be honest, social media is huge now. People are constantly looking at your pictures or reading your thoughts (depending how active you are on it). I’ll admit that one of my biggest struggles is caring too much what people think of me and the decisions I’ve made in the past and present. I won’t get too much detail because I don’t want to step on anyones toes, but I have had particular people who’ve made assumptions and judgments based off my career choices and spontaneity. The most common I’ve heard were, “she doesn’t know what she wants”, or “she didn’t get into graduate school, so that’s why she gave up”.
I can sit here and write pages and pages defending myself by saying that, I know exactly what I want, and that I actually did get accepted into graduate school (I just chose not to go for personal reasons, and my family supported my decision), but that’s not the point I’m trying to make with this subject.
My point is that no matter how old you are, where you are in life, what you are doing, who you are with… somehow and someway people will talk and make assumptions, and though that may suck sometimes, we just have to learn how to block the judgments and move along with your own life. Focus on yourself, no one else & you’ll be okay.
Because of these stories, and so much more I haven’t mentioned, I’ve made so many reliable friends along the way. Sure, I spent more money than I wanted to, but I wouldn’t change anything for the world! I truly believe that if I never took chances, or never got out of my comfort zone, then I would still be craving the idea for change. Something, anything to change.
People often ask me about stability, and that’s a good question. One of the few things stable in my life are the people in my life. They keep me sane, and I am aware that everything should be taken in moderation. But I don’t want the fear of stability to take away from the memories I’ve had by being spontaneous. You don’t have to take it to the extreme like I or other people have, but I do encourage you to be spontaneous, or get out of your comfort zone even in the smallest way. It’s good for the soul, you’ll grow, and you’ll learn more than you’ll ever know.
A Lyric Verse Written By Yours Truly,
Don’t waste your time. Let me remind you there are people, things and memories that are always beside you. The past can hurt but the way I see it, is you can run, hide, shy, conceal, keep secrets, or learn from your mistakes. Life happens so fast, move forward to realize that in your life there is a purpose for every person that you meet. Some will test, some will teach, some will use, or bring out the best in you. With that said, I’ll tell you this world is worth exploring.@mendozagabs
Be spontaneous, it is okay.